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Domestic Abuse

On January 1, 2020

In Discussed on the Today Show, Mental Health, Therapy

As discussed on the RTE TODAY show with Maura Derrane and Daithí Ó Sé.

There are still issues in Irish society that are taboo – that we do not like to talk about, that we’d prefer to not admit are happening. Domestic violence is one such issue. It takes many forms; physical, emotional, mental, sexual, financial, elder, social, child, online. It’s predominantly perpetrated by men against women, but is also experienced against men. It is not gender specific and is not confined to heterosexual relationships. People of every age experience domestic abuse – from children to the elderly.

Returning to the workplace after a lengthy absence

By Tom Evans

On January 1, 2020

In Discussed on the Today Show, Mental Health, Parenting, Therapy

As discussed on the RTE TODAY show with Maura Derrane and Daithí Ó Sé.

Though returning to work is generally hugely positive, we can experience:

- Fear – can be huge – fear of the unknown, fear of change.
- Anxiety – we’re always going to experience anxiety at our growing edge – when we push ourselves to do something new. In the pit of our stomach – this can be debilitating.

Loneliness and isolation – coping strategies

By Tom Evans

On January 1, 2020

In Community, Discussed on the Today Show, Mental Health, Therapy

Loneliness & Isolation – as discussed on the RTE TODAY show with Maura Derrane and Daithí Ó Sé.

We can be lonely in a crowded room. We can be lonely in our homes, even in a relationship – if we’re not fully able to be ourselves with somebody. A deeper more shattering loneliness is having nobody to talk to or nobody to meet. Isolation hits all ages and is not gender specific. Can be come about after bereavement, a job loss, after relationship breakdown, family moving on, arriving at older years, moving location etc. Loneliness can impact our mental and physical health.

Irish Suicides – Saturday night and Monday morning peaks

By Tom Evans

On September 28, 2017

In Community, Mental Health, Therapy

In Ireland, men are four times more likely to take their own lives than Irish women. Irish men are most likely to die by suicide on Saturday night or Monday morning. Alcohol is involved in around 50% of Irish suicides. Midleton based counsellor, Tom Evans writes about suicide patterns and the part alcohol plays in many of these tragedies.

Isolation can lead to raised stress level and deadly farm tragedies

By Tom Evans

On July 9, 2016

In Community, Therapy

(This article first appeared in Irish Examiner farming section 20/May/2016)

A Co Cork psychotherapist warns that stress is an important factor in the accident fatality rate in agriculture, which is far higher than for any other economic sector.

The Importance of Children’s Anger

By Tom Evans

On April 2, 2016

In Mental Health, Parenting, Therapy

There’s an expression that I hear occasionally that sets off alarm bells for me. It’s the statement: “that child is the best in the world and never gets angry”. Frankly I’m skeptical when I hear that.

Big Decisions – in your life..

By Tom Evans

On January 8, 2016

In Mental Health, Therapy

Sometimes we shy away from making big changes in life, even-though we know deep down that things are not right – that we are just not happy. Now might be a good time to take another look at the big decisions facing you – as our willingness and openness to change can be high at certain times of year.

The Reality Behind The Headlines

By Tom Evans

On October 17, 2015

In Therapy

Have you seen this headline on social media or the tabloids?

“Red alert to parents as convicted child predator arrives in Dublin…with a suitcase full of toys”.

I find this kind of headline a bit grating. It’s sensationalist, scaremongering and it propagates the notion that the “predator” is the stranger, an unknown and probably “not from around here”. I’m not suggesting that anybody ignore the risk posed by this individual, but sadly, the truth is that children are at much greater risk from those they know and those who they are entrusted to, than the unknown stranger.

Unforeseen Consequences of Marriage Equality Referendum

By Tom Evans

On September 11, 2015

In Community, Mental Health, Therapy

Something has changed in the Therapy room since the Referendum on marriage equality in Ireland. The outcome of that vote has had unforeseen consequences.

Pregnancy for Expectant dads

By Tom Evans

On July 9, 2015

In Mental Health, Parenting, Pregnancy/Birth, Therapy

Oh the excitement before we had our first baby. The thrill when we realised we were bringing a little one into our world – a monumental step.

A Dot of Grief in Time

By Tom Evans

On September 20, 2014

In Discussed on the Today Show, Mental Health, Parenting, Therapy

My little five and a half year old boy had his first brush with the grim reaper today. His favourite hen, Dotty, popped her clogs. He asked about her health problem and how she had seemingly recovered over the past few days, even laying eggs again. But she nose-dived yesterday evening and, by morning, had become a “past-tense-hen”, as the late Gerry Ryan might say.

Category: Therapy

Domestic Abuse

Returning to the workplace after a lengthy absence

Loneliness and isolation – coping strategies

Irish Suicides – Saturday night and Monday morning peaks

Isolation can lead to raised stress level and deadly farm tragedies

The Importance of Children’s Anger

Big Decisions – in your life..

The Reality Behind The Headlines

Unforeseen Consequences of Marriage Equality Referendum

Pregnancy for Expectant dads

A Dot of Grief in Time

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